Hey, welcome to The Young Faithful Mama Blog. My name is Justice Rodriguez and helping young mamas like you stop feeling unqualified, overwhelmed, and chaotic so you can start raising your babies with more peace and joy. By sharing some of my experiences and things that I learned through my journey so you can become a Young Faithful Mama too as you navigate through your life as a wife and mother.
The aim of this week’s blog is to help break the lie of “that’s just how I am !”
You ever caught yourself saying “ that’s just how I am because (insert traumatic moment) ! “ or “ well you know (insert trigger) makes me feel ( insert emotion) so that’s why I ( insert behavior) “
I know first hand how it feels to think that how you deal with things is simply just how you are as a person.
Quick example:
Are you really shy? Or was there a moment when you were silenced and now you’ve learned to just hold back?
Are you a clean freak? Or did you grow up in an environment that was always messy so now you clean out of fear of returning to that place in your own home?
Is there anything toxic about being shy, no and is being a super clean person a bad thing, of course not! But the story, the moment behind those moments is what matters.
There is always a cause and effect to everything in life. whether it’s good or bad
there is always an outcome.
So you think being rebellious is just who you are?
Do you think your “ just say it how it is “ attitude is really how you are?
Do you truly believe that the way you treat people, speak to people, accept correction, handle being wrong or just how you present yourself is just who you are naturally?
Or is it a trauma response that you have learned to protect yourself?
“Do not be wise in your own eyes; Fear the Lord and depart from evil.”
(Proverbs 3:7 NKJV)
it’s time to unpack your trauma, make peace within yourself, unlearn the behaviors that are keeping you bound and walk in spirit and in the truth of who you are.
A child of God! Maybe you are not been saved yet but Jesus died so that you will have a way (the only way) to save your soul from the damage that has been done and be washed clean to start a new with Him as your savior.
We are born into a sinful world that from the moment we enter already has a list of things we need to be and do to be accepted.
But I’m here to tell you that you will never be accepted by society, the personality you think you have is just a build-up of all the things that society tells you who you need to be.
“Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil walks about like a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour.”
( I Peter 5:8 NKJV)
Are you being devoured? Are you struggling between the light in you and that darkness that just doesn’t seem to leave? I’ve been there.
You have been labeled as mysterious but you are guarded, fearful, and hoping someone can see past your appearance that you just need understanding, compassion, a safe place, and the love of Jesus.
You may think “how can I be a Child of God? How can God want a mess like mine? I’m broken, I’m wounded and this mask I’m wearing is the only thing protecting me !”
And God’s word the beginning of the scripture In Jeremiah says “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you; Before you were born I sanctified you; ..” (1:5 )
He speaks to us again Jeremiah saying
“For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope. Then you will call upon Me and go and pray to Me, and I will listen to you. And you will seek Me and find Me when you search for Me with all your heart. I will be found by you, says the Lord, and I will bring you back from your captivity; I will gather you from all the nations and from all the places where I have driven you, says the Lord, and I will bring you to the place from which I cause you to be carried away captive.”
(Jeremiah 29:11-14 NKJV)
You need to understand that your personality, the one that’s been adopted for all these years has to go and you need to walk in your true identity.
You aren’t called to do life alone, stop believing that you are meant to figure it all out by yourself!
What does my personality have to do with my parenting journey
Our children are pieces of ourselves and our spouse walking around, when we are walking in unforgiveness, fear, doubt, pride, envy, and jealousy think of it as having a contagious disease. The things we say, our actions; how we handle situations are all ways we can transmit those things to our children. let that sink in for a second.
Our babies are watching us, their little eyes are constantly watching, and their little brains are taking it all in. it’s like when your 2 or 3-year-old is in the mocking stage and you find yourself being super mindful of your words, gestures, and how you treat others because your little one just seems to be picking up every little thing. That’s it is when your trauma is your personality you can turn your behavior into tradition and that’s the breeding ground for generational curses.
If you are a believer reading this then you have probably heard this passage in Ephesians:
“But you have not so learned Christ, if indeed you have heard Him and have been taught by Him, as the truth is in Jesus: that you put off, concerning your former conduct, the old man which grows corrupt according to the deceitful lusts, and be renewed in the spirit of your mind, and that you put on the new man which was created according to God, in true righteousness and holiness.”(4:20-24 NKJV)
Before we move on if you are reading this and you are not a believer in Christ then you should know that when you give your life to Christ no one on earth can change you. No human being alive can take the mess away from you. Only Jesus saves, when you are born again you are washed clean and you are made new (2 Corinthians 5:17) when you start to get into God’s word and learn the truth it will renew your mind ( Romans 12:2) and that will lead you to the scriptures above.
In verse 22 we are told to put off the former and in 24 instructed to put on the new. How can we walk in new if we are still bound by the trauma are holding on to? How can we parent our babies, nurture our household and teach if we are still held by a false identity?
The release
Jesus is the answer ! He is so the ultimate healer and for those that have confessed with their mouths and believe in their hearts that He is lord and our savior has received His Spirit. The Holy Spirit is our comforter
Jesus says before He went back to heaven to prepare a place for us that He had to go back so we can receive The Helper
““But now I go away to Him who sent Me, and none of you asks Me, ‘Where are You going?’ But because I have said these things to you, sorrow has filled your heart. Nevertheless I tell you the truth. It is to your advantage that I go away; for if I do not go away, the Helper will not come to you; but if I depart, I will send Him to you. And when He has come, He will convict the world of sin, and of righteousness, and of judgment: of sin, because they do not believe in Me; of righteousness, because I go to My Father and you see Me no more; of judgment, because the ruler of this world is judged. “I still have many things to say to you, but you cannot bear them now. However, when He, the Spirit of truth, has come, He will guide you into all truth; for He will not speak on His own authority, but whatever He hears He will speak; and He will tell you things to come. He will glorify Me, for He will take of what is Mine and declare it to you. All things that the Father has are Mine. Therefore I said that He will take of Mine and declare it to you.”
(John 16:5-15 NKJV)
Recently I learned how to communicate with the Holy Spirit, instead of just asking for things or just begging God to change things that I didn’t know were in His will for me or not, which by the way is how we start. We are supposed to talk with him, cry out to him and ask all the things but I learned that when you ask the Holy Spirit to show you things, help you get clarity on things, and much more. He will bring you of course back to God’s word, things you may read before will come back into your remembrance.
There are many ways God speaks to us. The Holy Spirit is one sure way because He lives in us.
If you would like to hear more about the Holy Spirit please let me know I will do a blog on it.
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Happy New Year, God Bless.
The Young Faithful Mama 